Quotes on Living Deliberately, Leadership, Resilience & Courage

On Living Deliberately

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
~ Steve Jobs

Good things happen to those who hustle.
~ Anaïs Nin

Each person’s task in life is to become an increasingly better person.
~ Leo Tolstoy

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
~ Anaïs Nin

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.
~ Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

On Resilience

In the midst of winter, I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer.
~ Albert Camus

Life only demands from you the strength you possess.
~ Dag Hammarskjold

I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”
Dr. Seuss

We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice.
~ Stephen Covey

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius

On Leadership

Leadership is about empathy. It is about having the ability to relate and to connect with people for the purpose of inspiring and empowering their lives.
~ Oprah

A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.
~ John C. Maxwell

If you want to know the temperature of your organization, put a thermometer in the leader’s mouth.
~ Rick Warren

On Courage

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.
~ Anaïs Nin

Courage is not limited to the battlefield or to the Indianapolis 500 or bravely catching a thief in your house. The real tests of courage are … the inner tests, like remaining faithful when nobody’s looking, like enduring pain when the room is empty, like standing alone when you’re misunderstood.
~ Charles R. Swindoll, Growing Strong In The Seasons Of Life

In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing.
~ Theodore Roosevelt

Evil triumphs when good men do nothing.
~ Edmund Burke

Teaching Resilience & Empathy

“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”
~ Dr. Seuss

Talking to your children in an age-appropriate manner about their feelings teaches them to express their emotions and fears. It gives them the language needed to understand themselves, accept reality, move forward and grow.

Talking about moving past negative emotions and overcoming fears, helps children think about solving problems for themselves and to deal with difficult situations.  We can help our children by talking about practical ways to solve problems.

Sharing our own feelings and emotions gives children strength.  It shows them that we empathize with their feelings. It helps them feel heard and understood.

Empathy is taught through modeling and practice.  It is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.  In practice, we can teach empathy by demonstrating empathy for others.  It can be taught naturally using situations arising regularly by talking about what is happening and asking the child to think about how others might feel or how they think they would feel in the situations you are seeing.

It’s important to let children know it’s okay to be angry or afraid sometimes.  It’s how we deal with emotions that matter. In teaching resilience and problem solving, talking through the causes of problems and coming up with practical solutions together help children solve their own problems later.

On Resilience

In the midst of winter,
I finally learned
there was in me
an invincible summer.
~Albert Camus

Resilience is the ability to triumph over adversity.

Reading through the morning’s stories, one in particular caught my attention about wrongful foreclosures. It told the stories of people whose homes were foreclosed on in error.  One man had even bought his house outright.  These individuals had their lives turned upside down from one minute to the next and there is nothing they could have done to avoid it, and they were forced to fight for what was already theirs.

Reading each story, I imagined how it must have felt to them – helpless, frustrated, angry, hopeless, outraged, trapped?

These are events that will mark their lives always.  Some will persevere and triumph.  They will move on and live productively.  Others will live out the horror of the nightmare for the rest of their lives.  The difference in the way the events affect them is resilience.

Resilient people are able to move on, be creative and succeed in life when faced with obstacles.  They accept their reality and take steps to move forward.  These are our problem-solvers.  They are able to bounce back and adapt.  While they may feel they cannot control everything happening in their lives, they are able to focus energies on solving those problems which they can.